Life changes in an instant. You could be having the most perfectly wonderful time of your life, and BOOM, your holding a lemon.
The common phrase about life turning “negative” is that “When life hands you lemons, you make LEMON AID!”, Although I appreciate this notion, I always found it to be someone wasteful.
So, Im handed this sour and yet beautiful lemon and Im just going to juice it and drink it? What about the seeds?
With every negative AND positive thing that happens in our life, there are ALWAYS root causal factors. Once we explore those causal factors and potential outcomes of how to move onward we discover the “seeds”. If you like lemonade, certainly go for the initial hydration and let that temporarily satiate the negative. Once the drink is over, then what? This is when we must look further and find out how to make this lemon that was handed to us cultivate an eternal change. The truth is, we will always be handed lemons, thus we will always be handed seeds.
I am a big fan of all things related to trees. I find most metaphors in life can somehow be connected to trees. This may make me sound like somewhat of a free spirited hippy, rather I have always found my grounding within tree roots. Some of my earliest memories are exploring roots, trees, and nature. It takes time to sift through life to sort out the “WHY ME”, feelings and not just pass them off and move on to the next thing. We live in a society that can far too easily just make the lemonade and move on. I consider that just slapping on a band aid.
If we are willing to take the seeds of the negative source and truly investigate them, connect with them, understand them (to the best of our ability), then we can plant them into the soil of life and trust they will grow.
We all know that even our best intentions for growth, do not always turn out as we plan. The “elements” of this earth can cause our seeds to rot, or grow without enough nutrients, or perhaps wilt due to lack of rain. The elements ARE life. When we hold the seeds and place them into the prepared earth, we are also accepting a responsibility to OWN them, care for them and make sure we can help them grow until they are strong enough to thrive on their own. We must always take responsibility for the seeds that we are given.
I fully understand that most of the time, the lemon is thrown at us. We are sometimes blind sighted by the lemon and never see it coming. Regardless, once its in our possession we have to learn to make a choice that will cultivate growth and understanding.
Now that I am going on 4 years post trauma, I look upon my spiritual lemon grove and smile that the trees are upright and they are finally beginning to bear flowers. I have taken on the eternal responsibility to CHOOSE to be the keeper of this grove and use these lemons to remain sustainable even once I have passed on.
Today, think about what your lemon in this life might be. Do you have a lemon? If you are “lemon-less” no worries, it will come. As long as we live upon this earth we will encounter negativity that will stop us in our tracks.
Today, think about how you will open your hands and care for the seeds once you have drank your lemon aid and allowed it to settle within your being. Remember life is an immensely beautiful gift and often the gifts are contained deeper than what you first notice. Take time to make a grove.